In your words
Describe what happened. Any way that feels natural.
A few sentences is enough. No names needed. The reader will hand it back to you with the Field Guide names for what you describe, and what tends to help.
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You write, in your own words.
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It is sent to be read. We keep counts, not words, unless you sign in and save it.
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You get the Field Guide names for it, and what tends to help.
If it helps: what they did, how often, and, if you have mentioned it to anyone, what happened. Start anywhere.
What you write here is sent to OpenAI, a third-party AI service, so it can be read and matched against the Field Guide. Unless you have signed in and turned saving on, we do not store what you write and it is not linked to your name or email. Please leave out real names. Read how this works in our Privacy Policy.
Write a few sentences first. At least 40 characters.
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This tool is an educational resource, not therapy, legal advice, or a diagnostic tool. It does one thing: it takes behavior you have described and tells you which documented pattern that behavior most resembles. That is a statement about what you witnessed, not a verdict on the person behind it, and it is not a diagnosis. Only a licensed clinician can diagnose anyone, and nobody can diagnose a person they have never met. What a pattern name is good for is your own clarity and your own next move.
How this works
What this page does, and what it does not
You write what happened in your own words. That text is read by an AI model, whose only job is to decide which documented Field Guide entries the behavior you described most resembles. It does not invent categories, and it cannot name anything that is not already written up in the Field Guide: it picks from a shortlist of existing entries, and anything it returns that is not on that list is discarded before you ever see it.
After the reading you can ask follow-up questions. The conversation is held by your own browser and sent again with each question: what you wrote, the questions you have asked, and the answers you were given. That is what lets the next answer know what the last one said. Unless you have signed in and turned saving on, there is no account and no session on our side: nothing about it is kept afterwards, and closing the tab ends it. If you have, it is saved to your account instead, and you can delete it whenever you like.
You get six follow-ups, then it stops. That is a decision, not a budget. This page is built to hand you the Field Guide's names for what happened and a place to start, not to become something you talk to instead of a person. When the sixth one is answered it says so plainly and points you at the entries it matched.
The pattern guess underneath the matches is not the model's opinion. It is worked out from those matched entries by exactly the same scoring Name the Pattern uses on its checkboxes, with the same weights, the same blend rule and the same evidence floor. If the evidence is thin, this page says so rather than guessing, in the same words the quiz uses.
What you write is not stored, unless you have signed in and turned saving on. By default there is no account, no draft saved in your browser, and no record kept of the text after the reading is done. What is sent to OpenAI is the text itself, your follow-up questions, and the shortlist of Field Guide entries, and nothing else: no name, no email, no address, no page history. Without a saved conversation, closing the tab is enough to make it gone.
We keep counts, never words. What is recorded is a daily tally: which Field Guide entries were matched and how confidently, what kind of question was asked from a fixed list of eight, how many turns a conversation ran, and the language. Those numbers are what tells us which entries are doing the work and which questions the Field Guide has no good answer for yet. They cannot be linked to you or to anything you wrote, because none of what you wrote is there to link them to.
Please leave real names out of it. You do not need them for the reading to work, and a description of behavior is easier to check against your own memory than a description of a person. If you would rather not send anything at all, Name the Pattern asks the same questions as a checklist and runs entirely in your browser.